Milestone birthdays. A time to reflect and review

Milestone Birthdays. A Time To Reflect And Review!

I can’t believe it’s almost July.

So…I have a milestone birthday on Friday. I will be turning 40……

Where has the last 10 years gone?

My Wife and I will be celebrating with a nice bottle of red wine from the year of my birth. She got it me a few years back and I have decided I will open it on my 40th.

Here is a picture.

Milestone birthdays are always a perfect time to reflect and review the last 10 years and to write down some goals for the next 10.

The Last 10 Years

Spending a bit of time looking back over the last decade comes with a lot of fond memories and a bit of sadness. I’ve focused on what things that have happened that I am most grateful for.

  • I managed to buy my first house on my own.
  • I met my wife.
  • Got engaged.
  • Got married.
  • Bought our first house together.
  • Visited China, Thailand, Vietnam, Australia, New York (twice).
  • Walked Hadrian’s Wall.
  • Honoured to be a best man for a close friend.
  • Attended Glastonbury festival.
  • Started a number of “online businesses”
  • Failed at a number of “online businesses”

It can be surprising as to what things you have achieved that may not always come to mind. I literally spent 2 minutes coming up with the list. I’m sure I could keep going.

Immediate Goals

I recently read ‘Awaken The Giant Within’ by Tony Robbins (it takes a while to get going). One of the exercises in the book is to write down your goals, prioritise them, then put a time period next to each one. Ranging from what your immediate goals are working up to 1, 2, 3, 5, 10 and 20 year goals.

It’s only a month or so ago I did this, on the whiteboard in my home office, I have 4 immediate goals that I want to accomplish.

Here is my list.

  • Get my weight down to 11 st 7 lbs (I’m currently 1 lb away from hitting my goal).
  • Start an online business that puts £100k+ into my pocket every year
  • Visit Japan
  • Donate to charity once a month

What do you reckon? Are they all achievable? I have set my bar too low?

The one I have been wrestling with the most is starting my own online business. This is something I have been trying to do for 10+ years with little success.

Luckily one of my character traits, which is both a strength and weakness is I can be like a dog with a bone.

I’m determined to make one of my current side projects a success. You can have a look at the list here.

Long Term Goals

I’m going to spend some time alone on Friday to review my longer term goals. As well as reflecting further on what the last 10 years have been like and looking forward to what my 40’s will bring me.

The exercise that Tony Robbins gets you to do, is to set goals for the following 4 categories.

  • Personal Development Goals
  • Career/Business/Economic Goals
  • Toys/Adventure Goals
  • Contribution Goals

Though I would share a goal from each category. Giving you an idea of the sorts of things I have written down from the exercise. These may change after the review on Friday.

Personal Development Goal – Be able to do a “Ring Muscle Up” – Timescale: 6 months

Career/Business/Economic Goal – Have 100k in the bank – Timescale: 1 year

Toys/Adventure Goal – Own a Tesla – Timescale: 3 years

Contribution Goal – Turn waste land near our house into a community garden centre – Timescale: 5 years

I heard a statement recently. I can’t remember who by, but they said something along the lines of. “Why can’t a goal that you set yourself for 5 years time not be achieved in the next 3-6 months?”.

That got me thinking. I wonder if this is possible for myself?

Why can’t I achieve my immediate goals in the next 1-3 months and then other goals within 6 months?

I’ve been able to hit my goals in areas such as health and fitness and personal development in the past. However, business and contribution goals I always seem to come up short. I need to start asking myself better questions as to why.

The Next 10 Years

So…Am I dreading turning 40. I’m not sure to be honest.

I’m extremely grateful for the life I have. Looking back, I wouldn’t change anything. Your journey makes you the person you are and I’m growing more comfortable in my own skin with each passing year.

That said, I do want my life to be different in a number of aspects. Mainly financial independence and time freedom. And I’m excited by what my 40’s hold, also with the opportunities that are constantly presenting themselves.

Am I dreading getting older? Of course I am. But I’m also comfortable with it. There is a statement I have heard over the years that I don’t agree with.

“I wish I could go back 20 years, knowing what I know now.”

I’ve never liked that statement. Like I have just said, your journey to this point makes you.

Over To You

Do you write you goals down?
Do you review them often?
Have you been able to reach a goals 10 times faster than you thought you could?
I would love to hear people’s thoughts on goals setting and their experience was when they reached a milestone birthday.

Comment on this post with your thoughts.

Thanks for reading.

Phil

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