Sometimes, when you’re feeling down, it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
You may feel like there’s nothing to look forward to and that your life is going nowhere. But take heart! There are some simple things you can do every day that will help turn your life around for the better.
Here are 3 powerful ways to improve self-talk, so you can develop a bulletproof mindset.
I’m going to ask you a question.
If you spoke to your best friend the way you talk to yourself, do you think you would stay friends for a long?
I very much doubt it.
Let’s say you met up with your best friend for lunch, and you are feeling down about a big mistake that you made at work. If your friend started calling you stupid, and idiot, saying “well no wonder you don’t deserve a pay rise. And you can forget about that promotion”. You’d be in shock, and would the lack of support would surprise you. But they wouldn’t. they would support you and put things in perspective.
Likewise, you’d do the same, why is it that we don’t talk to ourselves like we would a friend?
Change your mindset by changing how you talk about yourself!
1) Stop saying “I can’t”
This is a limiting belief, and it’s one of the most common self-sabotaging thoughts we have.
Our minds will tell us that we can’t do something to keep us safe from failure or rejection. This thought pattern can lead to depression and anxiety, but it doesn’t have to be this way! Try replacing “I can’t” with “I don’t know yet.” When you say “I don’t know yet,” your mind won’t try so hard at coming up with reasons why something won’t work out for you. Instead, it allows space for excitement about what might happen next!
2) Don’t put yourself down
I going to say they again. “Don’t put yourself down”.
Don’t say things like “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do it,” and don’t say them out loud. You are enough, and you can do anything you set your mind to!
Be kinder to yourself by focusing on what is working instead of what isn’t working. Or how someone else is doing better than you in some area of their life (which may be an illusion). It goes back to the point I was making earlier.
Become your own best friend.
3) Stop putting people down.
If you have a friend who is feeling down, don’t tell them they are too sensitive or that they need to “get over it.” Instead, help them see the positive in their situation and keep them motivated.
If someone tells you that your idea is stupid and won’t work, don’t take it personally and get defensive. Instead, ask yourself whether there might be some truth in what they said.
When someone else puts down another person or group of people (racism/sexism). Speak up against those comments by saying something like. “That’s not cool,” or “I disagree with that statement”. Instead of trying to defend yourself against their judgmental words with more judgmental words of your own!
“This Too Shall Pass”
Remember that things will always be okay in the end.
This is something I remind myself of all the time. It’s so easy to get caught up in your own head. Especially when you’re feeling down or stressed out about something. But it’s important to remember that no matter what happens and how things turn out. It will work out for the best! Things always do work out for me in the end (no matter how bad my situation may look).
So if you keep telling yourself this too, I promise it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy!
Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life
Turn your life around by changing your perspective and mindset.
You are responsible for your own happiness. And you can’t control other people, but you can control yourself. You can change your mindset and perspective to be more positive and change the way you talk to yourself as well.
Instead of being so judgmental about people’s actions towards us. Based on our own expectations. We should instead focus more energy on taking responsibility for ourselves. By changing our mindset first before trying anything else.
Conclusion: Bulletproof Your Mindset
If you want to change your life and make it better, you need to change your mindset. You can do this by recognizing negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. Remember that everything happens for a reason and nothing is permanent. There will always be more opportunities in the future!